Due to my recent inner conflict, I learned an important thing: To really overcome mental/emotional negativity, we need to do two things.
- release the emotion from the body as explained in my previous post
- release the negative mind patterns around the problem
The second one is hard to grasp, as we often don’t know why we are feeling a certain way and it is incredibly difficult to find out what exactly is our negative belief as the mind is not eager to just give us the answers freely when we think about our problems.
In addition to that we often add more negativity to our situation through asking questions which imply that there is something wrong with us.
These questions can be:
“What is wrong with me ?!”
“Why do I have to feel this way ?!”
“Why can’t I just get over this ?!”
These questions are not only completely useless, they are also harmful because they assume that someone or yourself is to blame for something that shouldn’t be this way. When in reality this situation is just what you need to grow.
- Be thankful, for what your going through is going to make you stronger and help you evolve. It might also release important blockages which open yourself to more positivity and love in your life.
- Approach the negative pattern with a positive sense of curiosity. After all, is there something more interesting than getting to know your inner workings?
Now that you adopted a positive attitude, what can you do to finally release the negativity?
Here are two ways that I found the most useful to release a negative mind pattern:
Just grab your pen and a piece of paper. Ask yourself (lovingly and gently!) “What is going inside me right now?” And write down everything that comes to your mind. Without thinking about it. Even if it’s complete nonsense. The negative mind pattern will eventually reveal itself. Just as Joan Didion said: “I don’t know what I think before I write about it.”
2. Talk about it
For this you need a person that you trust and with whom you can be completely at ease. Only if you don’t have to put on a show for this person will you find out what’s truly going on inside. Because that can feel embarrassing and uncomfortable.
So if you’re lucky enough to know such a person, sit down with them and ask them to just listen. They don’t need to provide answers. They will come from you. And then just feel what’s going on and starting talking. If you don’t overthink the right thing will come to your mind.
You found your negative mind pattern? Congratulations, you’ve nearly finished the work. Now you only have to make the conscious effort to notice this pattern every time it gets activated and then release it or replace it lovingly via plain awareness or positive affirmations.
You are still confused? Relax, you’re going to find it out. Just be gentle with yourself and dig a little deeper.
For me, these two ways work wonders and it feels like magic that ones I’m able to pin the negative pattern down it just gets released from my mind. Cheers to good ol’ awareness!
So does this work for you too or do you use different methods ?