Having to life in silence with our problems is one of the worst things that we can go trough. It makes us feel isolated and alone. We feel like you’re the only one who suffers from this particular problem. We feel like it shouldn’t be that way and somehow everybody does it right apart from ourselves. That increases the pain even more because we feel ashamed about not being okay.
It is only until we finally find the courage to open up to others that we find out that others go through the same thing as we do. This can be immensely relieving because we recognize that we are not aliens or stupid or unworthy and that there are people sharing our experience. Trough sharing our thoughts we find community and feel less alone.
Knowing we are not alone or strange makes it easier to completely admit our problems to ourselves, which is the first step to healing. Without being able to speak out we have to suffer alone and in the darkness, which makes it incredibly hard to overcome it suffering.
Breaking the silence takes a lot of courage. It is not easy to show the world what you tried to hide for such a long time. But it is an extremely healing act. Once your are brave enough to take this step, your inner wounds will start to heal. So gather all your strength and get yourself out there.
If you still feel insecure and don’t think you should share your suffering, here are some important things you should remember:
- You are never alone.
We are over 7 billion people on earth, no matter how weird your problem may seem to you, someone else is experiencing the same pain.
- You will help other people by speaking out.
There are other people just like you who feel isolated and alone. They long for you to share your problem with the world, so that they too can find relief and start healing. When you open up you don’t only heal yourself I but others too.
- You can speak out anonymously
We are blessed with innumerable options for opening up anonymously through the internet. If you are afraid of speaking to people you know, or just don’t have someone who you trust, you can find self help groups in all social networks, blogs or help-hotlines you can call. Just google your problem and you’re sure to find relief. Just stay safe and don’t turn to websites that romanticize your problem. For example there are many sides which basically promote anorexia and while these side provide community they are dangerous and will make your suffering even worse.
❗️If you feel suicidal there are helplines in every country, just check for your country on this side.
- The closest people in your life might just not know what’s going on
Maybe you are so good at hiding your suffering or your relatives and friends are just really busy so that they don’t even know what’s going on. If you have someone you trust it is important for that person to know what’s going on so that they can help you in your healing process. Having a close relative or friends who you open up to can be super comforting and will take you out of you isolation. Even if you feel like nobody will understand you it is worth trying because just the act of breaking the silence is very relieving.
So please folks, never stop yourselves from opening up. Someone cares. Your are not alone and never have been. We are so interconnected, you just need to reach out to someone to find help. And others will find healing in your healing too. So start today with speaking out.
I hope you are all feeling okay and if not, go tell someone!