Mind, Soul

Why creativity matters and how to increase it  

This post is inspired by the wonderful book  “Big Magic” by Betty Dodson, who really opened my eyes about creativity. It is a life changing and witty book which I highly recommend to everyone, especially those who see themselves as not creative (as I did).
Many people think that they are not creative persons. Just because we don’t feel drawn to or posses a natural talent in the ‘real’ arts like writing or drawing, we label ourselves as uncreative. I have, of course, also thought about myself like that. For most of my life I told myself that I’m only an intellectual person. I liked history and science and somehow that meant that I could not be a creative person. Now that’s some stupid nonsense. But many of us fall into this trap.

The truth is that creativity is our human nature. Even when life was just a fight for survival, our ancestors somehow managed to find time for drawing pictures of animals into caves. 

We can’t be not creative. It’s simply not possible.

Everything we do is somehow creative. Gardening is creative. Dancing is creative. Baking is creative and so is literally everything that has some kind of ‘creation’. This creation doesn’t have to be special or even good, it can be utter crap as long as it comes from your heart.  

“Creativity is the way I share my soul with the world” ~ Brené Brown

As humans we have the innate need to share and express ourselves. That is why I believe that we don’t only like to be creative, we have to be creative if we want to stay healthy mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Creativity is a gift that comes from I-don’t-know-where and it needs to be expressed. It comes from our hearts and our longing for wonder and excitement. It makes us feel joyful and brings us to the present moment, which creates a lot of positive energy.
Feeding our souls with this kind of energy is exactly what we need to be happy. So if you really want a fulfilled life, you better let your heart run the show and start creating. 
But what should I create !?

Just create anything. It really doesn’t matter what. You don’t even need to be passionate about it. Most of us have multiple passions or none, so don’t worry too much about it. Just do what sparks your interest. That is enough. Some examples are:

  • Cooking
  • Gardening
  • Knitting
  • Painting
  • Story writing 
  • Blogging
  • Dancing
  • Singing
  • Making music
  • Decorating your house 
  • Collecting Post-Stamps
  • Making Videos 
  • Taking Pictures

The list goes on and on and on and on. There is something for you out there. Just try anything that you might like.

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⭐️ If you still feel uncreative and or/ unsure about what you want to do here are some tips to increase your creativity and follow your heart:
First of all you need to forget all those fears that are holding you back! They are nonsense and I’ll tell you why: 

  • I’m worried im not good enough/ not satisfied with the result.

Who cares, it’s not about that! It’s simply about doing something that you love for the sake of it! It’s just a game and the purpose is enjoyment, nothing else. If you create something beautiful in the process that’s great, but if you don’t that’s also great because the benefit comes from doing something and not from the result.

  • I don’t have talents/ no inspiration.

Bullshit ! I’m sorry (no I’m not) for saying it so bluntly but it’s true. I strongly believe that everyone has something to share. Even if you like building sculptures out of old milk bottles. It’s all good, as long as it’s fun. Just do anything that you are interested in. Even if it’s only a teeny tiny bit. Just see if there’s something you like and go for it. And if that’s not the right thing, drop it and try something else. Try everything. This whole world is abundant and you can choose to do everything you want. The world really is your playground.

  • I’m afraid of what other people think of me/my work.

Two things: Everything is completely subjective. Some people praise something that other people find absolutely shitty and vice versa. So someone is always going to critizise you. Even if you don’t do anything, so you might as well just follow your heart.

And second: Nobody thinks about you anyway! It’s a harsh truth, but it’s true. People are way to busy thinking about themselves. It may sound mean but in reality it’s wonderful! It means that you are completely free to do whatever you want with out needing to worry about the opinions of other people.

Still, I understand it’s not easy to get rid of this habit. So if you need more help and want to know how to stop caring what other people think about you, read this post.

  • I’m worried that I will fail

Don’t worry. You will fail, many times. And the only which will get wounded is your ego, which is really no big deal. It just feels uncomfortable, but if you put it into perspective is not a thing to fear. You gain way more than you lose, even if you fail. At least you gain experience and knowledge but most importantly you feed your soul when you exercise your creativity. So forgive yourself and move on. The next thing is already waiting for you.

If you have the courage to face your fears and start the creative process congratulations! It’s going to be a lot of fun. 

⭐️ Here are some more tips to help you along the way: 

  • Discipline matters

To get good at something it is important to practice it and devote time to it. If you love a craft, show your craft that you love it by doing just that. Again and again. And it will love you back.

  •  Forget about perfection

You can’t attain it anyway. Perfection is impossible, because everything is subjective and perfectionistic standards are unattainable. The only thing that perfectionism will do is leave you feel insecure and unworthy which is dangerous for your creativity. So drop it and express everything you want with out feeling the need to make it perfect. 

  • Try out different ways of creativity

Even if your the worst at it, just do something else than you would normally do. Simply because it’s fun. It can be anything, from gardening to inventing stories, to singing a song, anything that sparks your interest. It will definitely increase your creativity and you will have fun in the process. 

  • Take care of yourself

You’re way more likely to be inspired and creative if you feel confident and beautiful. So practice self love and put on that dress which makes you feel invinsible. It will make all the difference, trust me. If you want more tips on how to love yourself and care for yourself more, head over to this post.

And always remember: The outcome does not matter. It never did. The only important thing is that you enjoy the process. Period.  
Like Betty Dodson, the author of “Eat Pray Love” puts it: “What do you love doing so much that the words failure and success essentially become irrelevant? What do you love even more than you love your own ego?”.
Go ahead and do that. And your life will be a zillion times more magical, fun and fulfilling.

Creativity is sacred and it is not sacred.

What we make matters enormously and it doesn’t matter at all.

We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits.

We are terrified and we are brave.

Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege.

Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us.

Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise-you can make anything.

So please calm down now and get back to work, okay?

The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say yes.” ~Betty Dodson

What is your favorite way to express creativity?

Namaste 💜

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Mind, Soul

Why it is important to break the silence

Having to life in silence with our problems is one of the worst things that we can go trough. It makes us feel isolated and alone. We feel like you’re the only one who suffers from this particular problem. We feel like it shouldn’t be that way and somehow everybody does it right apart from ourselves. That increases the pain even more because we feel ashamed about not being okay. 
It is only until we finally find the courage to open up to others that we find out that others go through the same thing as we do. This can be immensely relieving because we recognize that we are not aliens or stupid or unworthy and that there are people sharing our experience. Trough sharing our thoughts we find community and feel less alone. 
Knowing we are not alone or strange makes it easier to completely admit our problems to ourselves, which is the first step to healing. Without being able to speak out we have to suffer alone and in the darkness, which makes it incredibly hard to overcome it suffering. 
Breaking the silence takes a lot of courage. It is not easy to show the world what you tried to hide for such a long time. But it is an extremely healing act. Once your are brave enough to take this step, your inner wounds will start to heal. So gather all your strength and get yourself out there. 
If you still feel insecure and don’t think you should share your suffering, here are some important things you should remember:

  

  • You are never alone. 

We are over 7 billion people on earth, no matter how weird your problem may seem to you, someone else is experiencing the same pain. 

  • You will help other people by speaking out. 

There are other people just like you who feel isolated and alone. They long for you to share your problem with the world, so that they too can find relief and start healing. When you open up you don’t only heal yourself I but others too.

  • You can speak out anonymously 

We are blessed with innumerable options for opening up anonymously through the internet. If you are afraid of speaking to people you know, or just don’t have someone who you trust, you can find self help groups in all social networks, blogs or help-hotlines you can call. Just google your problem and you’re sure to find relief. Just stay safe and don’t turn to websites that romanticize your problem. For example there are many sides which basically promote anorexia and while these side provide community they are dangerous and will make your suffering even worse. 
❗️If you feel suicidal there are helplines in every country, just check for your country on this side.

  • The closest people in your life  might just not know what’s going on

Maybe you are so good at hiding your suffering or your relatives and friends are just really busy so that they don’t even know what’s going on. If you have someone you trust it is important for that person to know what’s going on so that they can help you in your healing process. Having a close relative or friends who you open up to can be super comforting and will take you out of you isolation. Even if you feel like nobody will understand you it is worth trying because just the act of breaking the silence is very relieving.

So please folks, never stop yourselves from opening up. Someone cares. Your are not alone and never have been. We are so interconnected, you just need to reach out to someone to find help. And others will find healing in your healing too. So start today with speaking out.
I hope you are all feeling okay and if not, go tell someone!
Namaste 💜

Mind

How to stop caring about what other people think about you

We’ve all been there. Someone says something negative about us and immediately anxiety grabs us. We start scolding ourselves: “Why am I like this?! I can’t do anything right!”. We feel unworthy and useless. It is a horrible feeling and has many negative effects on our psyche. Indeed, taking too much interest in the opinions of others can be detrimental for our mental health, causes stress and anxiety, destroys our connection with ourselves because we forget how to decide based upon our intuition and generally just makes life less fun than it’s supposed to be.

However, caring about what other people think about you doesn’t necessarily have to be negative. As social animals we rely on the function of our communities and therefore it’s important to have some set of rules and norms for our behavior. Only with this unspoken social codex can we build stable relationships and groups, as families or companies. 
Moreover, the opinions of others can sometimes provide vital information about unhealed parts of ourselves and help us to advance on our journey. For example if someone points out to you that you’ve been mean to your coworker when he asked that dumb question for the third time in an hour, you might find out that you need to work on your patience and compassion.

Caring about the opinions of others only starts to be a problem if you dwell over the opinions too much. When you start relying on others to assure your sense of self instead of just using their opinions for improvement and then letting them go, you get yourself in trouble. That’s where the suffering starts. 
If we are insecure and without inner connection we start to search for security on the outside. We think that we need to please others and be prefect in order to be accepted and loved, so we stop acting from our inner source and start to try everything to somehow fit into our chosen picture of a perfect human
Just to get this clear, that ideal doesn’t necessarily have to be liked by everyone. We often mistake our strive for recognition as originality and our own personality, while in reality we are only trying living up to a standard that we think will make us accepted and worthy of love. So for example a young girl could try to live up to the ideal of the ‘coolest and most carefree party-girl’, a picture that most definitely doesn’t please the girl’s parents but to her seems like an original way to be as it is admired by her teenage peers. 

We are constantly trying to live up to a standard that we think will make us accepted and worthy of love.

In this desperate attempt to find belonging and self worth, we struggle to make people like us and think of us in a certain way. As we build our whole sense of self upon how other people see us, we are extremely attached to their options and devastated if someone doesn’t like us or sees us the way we want them to. Because we fear losing this secure sense of self we spent our whole life people-pleasing and trying to live up to an unachievable standard of perfection. 
As a result we completely lose the connection to our inner wisdom and knowing, because we only look for outer guidance. But only if we live from our inner source we truly can be happy. Only if we do what brings us joy and happiness will we be content and at peace. This is such a simple truth, yet most people forget about it. 
Always remember: We don’t have to gain the right to be loved. We have the right to be loved and we are loved because we exist. No exceptions.

It is easier to understand this intellectually than to really feel it. We all know how hard it is to get out of the mindset of lack and fear.

But hard doesn’t mean impossible and there are many practices that you can do to help you be the best and most authentic (which means free,happy and confident!) version of yourself. I say practices because they need to be done not only once but on a daily basis and with awareness. Only then can you rewire your mind for a more fulfilled life. This takes time and energy but trust me, it’s worth it.
Your life is way too short to be lived in fear of other people’s opinions. And the world longs for you to share your unique gifts and quirks with the world without holding back. 

So let’s see what you can do to stop caring about what other people think of you:

  •  Remember that people are always going to critize you, no matter what

This may not be what you wanted to hear, but it’s true and can set you free if you really understand it. Everything in this life is completely subjective. Literally everything. One person may like what you’re doing while another person absolutely hates it. You can NEVER please everyone. It’s just not possible. 

So next time when you notice that you’re afraid of criticism remember that there will definitely be criticism. Even if you don’t do anything at all, someone will still criticize you. There’s no way around it, so you might just do whatever you want. And that is incredibly liberating.

  • Remember that nobody thinks about you anyway

Sounds really harsh, but is actually quite liberating too. We spend so much time worrying about what other people may think about us while other people just think about themselves (or what other people may think about them). People are so busy that they most probably don’t even spend a second thinking about you and if they do, it will just be a quick thought which they forget in a blink of an eye. This may make you feel lonely at first, but think about it, if no one thinks about what you’re doing, you can just do anything! You can follow your heart and be wonderfully crazy just as you like without feeling like you’re in the center of attention and have to deliver a perfect show. You’re simply free to be yourself!

  • Grow your self love 

Self love is one of the most important parts of overcoming the fear of the opinions of others. As most of this attachment to external feedback comes from insecurity, it is extremely important to build confidence and a strong sense of self. This can be done by working on loving yourself. Building self love is a quest on its own and superduperhyper important for everything in life. You can grow your love to yourself actively by various techniques such as positive affirmations (google it), doing what you love, caring for yourself, thinking positively, resting when you need it, listening to your intuition and so much more. If you need more help on how to love yourself more, just search the internet, especially YouTube, there are so many helpful informations. For example you can check out this Video by the lovely InfiniteWaters.

  •  Celebrate yourself

You want acceptance and recognition? Well, then give it to yourself! Seriously, you’re the only person who truly needs to approve of what you’re doing. So celebrate every little success. Congratulate yourself for getting out of bed today. Give yourself a pat on the back for finishing that assignment or working out. Celebrate your kindness and good looks. Just be proud about everything that you are. You are perfect and exactly the way you should be.

  • Don’t take yourself too seriously, it’s all just a a game

Yes of course, you are a miracle and your life matters. But still, in the end you’re going to leave this place and literally none of those external values will matter anymore. In the long run, all your perceived failures or success will be forgotten. The only thing that will really matter is if you enjoyed the time you spent here on earth. So of course you should still be ambitious and try to improve yourself and your life, but take it lightly and with a sense of play, for it is just a game and you won’t get out of here alive anyway.

  • Ditch perfectionism

Sorry to inform you, but you can never reach objective perfection because that doesn’t exist. And you don’t even have to. The authentic you with your edges and quirks is far more valuable to this world than any perfect person could ever be. We need your original gifts and talents and not your stress. And stress is the only thing you get when you try to reach perfection. Perfectionism takes the fun out of everything because it makes you feel unworthy all the time. Moreover it may stop you from even trying because you’re afraid that you can’t live up to your expectations. 

So always remember: If you do something, do your best but forget about perfection because that’s bullshit. And never forget to have fun!

  •  Release negative mind patterns

Lastly, it is really important to release the negative mind patterns surrounding this issue. After all, you think the way you think due to your minds conditioning. So in order to really tackle the problem you need to rewire your mind. That can be done by the practices described in this post and by reprogramming your mind with positive affirmations. If you want to learn more about positive affirmations and their utility, check out this post.

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This life is yours and you’re the most important person in it. Don’t let this gift slip out of your hands. Enjoy it fully. Don’t let others dictate what you should do, follow your heart and I promise you will be much more joyful.

Namaste 💜

Mind

How to use positive affirmations

 Most of us have already heard about Positive Affirmations. There are many people out there who say that positive affirmations don’t work, but I think that’s nonsense. Positive Affirmations have helped me turn my life upside down. Without them I would still be stuck in a place of self loathing darkness. As a consequence I’m naturally really fond of them and believe that they have great healing powers.

So why do so many people think that Positive Affirmations don’t work? Because you need to use them correctly.

You can’t just read them or say them thinking “This is wrong and won’t work anyway” because, what an epiphany, you will get exactly what you expect; the affirmations don’t work.
For those of you who don’t know what Positive Affirmations are, here’s a quick introduction:

Positive Affirmations are short, affirming sentences used to rewire your brain to think positively. The aim is to create new neuronal pathways so that you can abandon negative mind patterns and start thinking in more positive ways. While doing that, you increase your life’s quality and reduce stress.
Examples of Positive Affirmations are:

I am secure.

I feel happy and at peace.

My life works out perfectly.

Money flows into my life easily.
The practice of positive affirmations is based on the belief that you can create your physical reality with your thoughts. And while there is a lot of evidence about this (just google manifesting), this is sometimes hard to believe and I won’t dictate what you should think. Just find it out for yourself. But even if you think that this is nonsense, Positive Affirmations can still be very beneficial for you because they simply make you feel more confident, joyful and trusting.
So why do so many people feel like Positive Affirmations are nonsense?

Because they do it wrong. As I said above, it’s not enough to simply read them with negative emotions attached to the practice. You have to in the right mental and emotional state to really get all the benefits.
In order to really make Positive Affirmations work, you need to use them correctly.

So here are some steps on how to use Positive Affirmations:

  • Try to drop into a meditative state

Feel the energy rushing trough your body. Feel your heart beating or listen to your breath. Try to anchor yourself in the present moment so that your mind will be completely open for the seed that you’re planting through the affirmations.

  • Release negativity

If you keep holding on to negative expectations, you will get exactly what you expect. Nothing. So try to forget about your skepticism for a moment and be open. After all, this is not magic. It’s just that repeated thoughts eventually reshape your brain. That’s science, you can google it. 
Trust me!

  • Feel gratitude 

Try to bring your feelings on board by being grateful for what you are affirming, as if it is already true (it most certainly is!). By feeling gratitude you generate a strong positive impulse which will make the affirmation much more effective. As a plus, it will also make you feel good along the way so it’s definitely worth trying.

  • Practice affirmations directly after or before going to bed 

This will increase their effect enormously, because your conscious mind is not active enough to fight against the affirmation so that it can seep right through into your subconscious mind.
Create a set time for affirmation practice.
As said above, good times are directly before going to bed or directly after, but you can choose any time you want. It is only important that you keep practicing every day, because new neuronal pathways are only created through constant repetition.

  • Repeat, Repeat, Repeat

To rewire your mind you need to repeat the new thoughts really often. Only then will they really become part of your habitual thinking. Scientists found out that it takes somewhere between 21 days to 8 months to really create a new belief. So roll up your sleeves and start working.

  • Have fun

Don’t take it too seriously, you want to create a happier and more joyful life, so the road to get there should also be joyful.

Now that you now how to use affirmations, you still need to know which affirmations to use. Luckily the internet is such a big source of wisdom that it’s easy to find just the right thing for everyone.

If you need help, here are my favorite resources:

What are you’re favorite affirmations? Do you like to listen to audios or to read them yourself?

Namaste 💜

Mind, Soul

How traveling can change your life 

Just to make it clear, I’m not talking about the comfortable type of traveling here. I’m not talking about the all-inclusive, laying at the-pool-all-day kind of travel. Yes of course, that’s also amazing and maybe to relax is just what you need, but it’s not going to change your perspective.

I’m talking about the long-term, bare bones, backpacking type here. Where you have nearly no privacy, just little comfort and no consistency at all. At first it simply sounds thrilling and fun, like a great adventure. And it is, definitely.

But there’s also a different side to it. The hard, uncomfortable part. That’s the part where you grow.

There are many factors that make life on the road challenging:

  • Loneliness
  • Having to life on a budget 
  • No comfort
  • No consistency
  • No security
  • Being unfamiliar with everything around you
  • Lack of privacy
  • Lack of regularity
  • Having to adapt to new things all the time

But in my opinion this is exactly why traveling is definitely worth it!

It will get you out of your comfort zone, there’s no way around it. While you travel, many of your usual defense mechanisms  fall away. You can’t just retreat back to your private space and hide under the blanket. Your favorite comfort food might not be available. Comforting routines and activities (working out, watching movies, cuddling with your boyfriend..) that normally protect you from yourself are not available.

As a consequence, you are confronted with everything that you would rather hide from. Negative mind patterns, habits and behavior come to the surface. It’s not a comfortable feeling but it’s really cleansing. Furthermore it’s a wonderful opportunity to release all of this negative baggage that is holding you back. You don’t need it anymore, you can just throw it away.

If you then take some time (which you will have to take as it can get really uncomfortable) to consciously work through it (try realeasing your negative emotions and mind patterns) and not retreat to alcohol or exzessiv partying you will feel way lighter and grow immensely.

 So as a matter of fact, traveling forces you to evolve, which can be quite nice, especially if you are already feeling relatively settled but feel that there’s something else that you can’t yet grasp. Traveling is a sure way kick all this rotten garbage out. You just got to make sure you do it with awareness and compassion for yourself. Then you can count on some pretty nice aha-moments.

So to illustrate all this theory let me tell you about what happened for me. One month into traveling I got sick. So eventually all my familiar habits that I used to cover up my insecurities and confusion fell away. I could not eat comfort food because it was simply not available. Drinking alcohol and smoking hurt me so much, that I didn’t even bother trying. There were no parents or boyfriends to comfort me and tell me that everything would be alright. I could not excercise or watch funny movies. Nothing saved me from myself. My shield completely fell away and I was forced to meet negative mind patterns and emotions that had been stuck in myself for a long time. I felt really bad for some days, I was confused and sad. But I never lost hope. I knew this was why I wanted to travel and that I’m only going to grow because of it. And I was right. I used the methods to release negative emotions described in this post and found out incredible things about me.

I had many destructive mind patterns going on that held me back and made me struggle, but I didn’t realize them to this point. Once I noticed them, I could release them and felt way more confident, happy and balanced. So hooray to traveling and I’m looking forward to al the things that I’m going to learn through the next challenges!

Have you already experienced similar things? What did you learn through traveling ?

Namaste 💜

Mind

How to release negative mind patterns 

Due to my recent inner conflict, I learned an important thing: To really overcome mental/emotional negativity, we need to do two things.

  1. release the emotion from the body as explained in my previous post 
  2. release the negative mind patterns around the problem

The second one is hard to grasp, as we often don’t know why we are feeling a certain way and it is incredibly difficult to find out what exactly is our negative belief as the mind is not eager to just give us the answers freely when we think about our problems. 

In addition to that we often add more negativity to our situation through asking questions which imply that there is something wrong with us. 
These questions can be:
“What is wrong with me ?!”
“Why do I have to feel this way ?!” 
“Why can’t I just get over this ?!”
….
These questions are not only completely useless, they are also harmful because they assume that someone or yourself is to blame for something that shouldn’t be this way. When in reality this situation is just what you need to grow.

So …

  • Be thankful, for what your going through is going to make you stronger and help you evolve. It might also release important blockages which open yourself to more positivity and love in your life.
  • Approach the negative pattern with a positive sense of curiosity. After all, is there something more interesting than getting to know your inner workings?

Now that you adopted a positive attitude, what can you do to finally release the negativity?
Here are two ways that I found the most useful to release a negative mind pattern:

  1. Journaling

Just grab your pen and a piece of paper. Ask yourself (lovingly and gently!) “What is going inside me right now?” And write down everything that comes to your mind. Without thinking about it. Even if it’s complete nonsense. The negative mind pattern will eventually reveal itself. Just as Joan Didion said: “I don’t know what I think before I write about it.”
     

      2. Talk about it 

For this you need a person that you trust and with whom you can be completely at ease. Only if you don’t have to put on a show for this person will you find out what’s truly going on inside. Because that can feel embarrassing and uncomfortable.
So if you’re lucky enough to know such a person, sit down with them and ask them to just listen. They don’t need to provide answers. They will come from you. And then just feel what’s going on and starting talking. If you don’t overthink the right thing will come to your mind. 

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You found your negative mind pattern? Congratulations, you’ve nearly finished the work. Now you only have to make the conscious effort to notice this pattern every time it gets activated and then release it or replace it lovingly via plain awareness or positive affirmations.

You are still confused? Relax, you’re going to find it out. Just be gentle with yourself and dig a little deeper.

For me, these two ways work wonders and it feels like magic that ones I’m able to pin the negative pattern down it just gets released from my mind. Cheers to good ol’ awareness!

So does this work for you too or do you use different methods ?

Namaste 💜

Mind, Soul

How to release negative emotions

A few days ago I had an emotional breakdown. The nagging feeling inside just got stronger and stronger and my usual defense mechanisms stopped working. So I decided to get my sh*t together and work through it. Easier said than done. I told myself ” just get over it already and think positive “. But of course that didn’t work. I feel that in the spiritual world we often get too hard on ourselves when it comes to experiencing negative emotions and fear. We feel like we’re not really spiritual enough when negativity succeeds in getting us down. 

But in my opinion, personal growth can only happen when we are gentle and honest with ourselves. Falling down is human. Losing control sometimes is okay. Don’t be too hard on yourself. In fact, truly experiencing negative emotions can be very beneficial for you spiritual growth/mental health, because it makes you stronger and helps releasing old blockages. 

So here is the way I found most useful when it comes to dealing with negative emotions:

Feeling your way through the discomfort 
In order to release emotions, they need to be felt. Completely, without thinking or judging. To suppress or act them out will only make them stronger and they will come back again stronger. 

How to truly feel an emotion:
It is actually easier than it sounds. Let go of the story and the thoughts that you tell yourself by not labeling the emotion. Just concentrate on the bodily sensation. No words are needed. Scan your body and feel where the emotion causes you to tense or tighten your muscles. Does your chest feel heavy? Do your face muscles tense? For me personally, I feel fear mostly as a heavy sensation in my chest and a tingling in my arms. Just breath into the sensations and try to stay aware, not running away with your mind. Stay there till you feel how your body releases and the negative emotion loses its power. This can take time, so be gentle with yourself. If you feel overwhelmed by the practice release it and try again. 

Don’t judge yourself if you don’t succeed in releasing the emotion. Even if you were just able to feel your darkness for a second, you will already get great benefits. It’s a learning process.

Don’t expect immediate relief, just stay present and curious about what comes up and see how the feelings change. Over time this practice will become easier and feel lighter, as you learn to stay present with your discomfort, without trying to get your “quick fix” (food,sex,television…). These defense mechanisms may give you short term relief but will only sow the seed for even worse feelings. So try to stick with it and find the courage to show up for yourself, even when it gets really uncomfortable. You can do it!

It may seem hard at first but I found that it is the only effective way to create lasting change and truly release emotions. And never forget you are not alone. Everyone experiences negative emotions and fear. So let’s get out of that together.

If you tried this method, does it work for you? Or do you have a different approach that works better for you?

Namaste 💜